Eating together...Losing weight together?

Dear Charlotte,

My husband and I are both considered “obese” and have been for some time. We know that part of our problems are that we eat together—so if my husband is hungry, I eat, even if I am not and vice versa. And we have tried every diet from grapefruit to Adkins and nothing has worked. In your coaching program, is it possible to work with two people at once? We believe that in order to be successful, we will have to be on the same program together.

Jennifer and Jack

Dear Jennifer and Jack,

Absolutely you can do the program together. I have worked with many couples. You are able to support and encourage each other and understand. You will both learn that you eat when you are hungry and not when the other person is hungry. There is also a way to pace yourself so that you may enjoy meals together. However there will be times that perhaps you will say to your husband “Jack, I’m just not hungry right now, but I’d love to have a glass of tea and talk to you while you eat”.

Please call me for more information 800.496.7710 or email charlotte@secretsofslimpeople.com. You may visit my website at www.secretsofslimpeople.com. I look forward to hearing from you and being able to help you, as a couple, achieve your weight goals.

Charlotte Smith
Eating Consultant and Life Coach

Depressed about Eating

Dear Charlotte,

I have a food question that I hope you can help me with... Why do I sometimes feel depressed about eating when I should be happy about it? There are times that I feel dread before I eat and even worse after I eat. I want to feel good about food and the way I enjoy it as if it were a gift instead of a vice.

Lawrence

Dear Lawrence,

I so understand what you are saying. We would have to look at what the “dread” is about to find the real answer to this question. Have you dieted many times before and then when you eat you hate yourself for eating and so therefore the dread comes up? Are you afraid to eat, afraid of gaining weight or afraid of being hungry? What is the story you are telling yourself. I would really like to explore this with you further. Eating is a gift and a pleasurable one. When you eat when you are physically hungry food tastes so wonderful. Let’s talk.

Call me at please contact me at 800 496 7710 or email charlotte@secretsofslimpeople.com.

Charlotte Smith
Eating Consultant and Life Coach

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Eat when you are hungry - Eat what you want!

Dear Charlotte,

I have read your blog and website and I am very interested in learning more, but what about nutrition, shouldn’t I eat my veggies and fruits?

Sally W.

Dear Sally,

Absolutely you should eat your fruits and veggies if you want them. You should also eat cupcakes and bread and butter if you want them, when you are physically hungry.

They did a study where they took very young children and told them they could eat whatever they wanted to eat for two weeks. For the first two days they ate cracker jacks. That was all they wanted. Then you know what happened, they started craving what you and I would consider pretty healthy balanced meals. Their body knew what it wanted.

If you listen to your body when you are hungry, it does not usually want sugar and processed foods, it wants real foods. You also listen to how your body feels when you eat certain foods, “If I eat pancakes, and I give myself permission to eat them. After I eat them I feel sluggish, bloated and almost have to take a nap.” Notice how your body feels after you eat certain foods. It will tell you, and has been trying to tell you. Once you learn how to listen to what your body is saying it wants and needs, you will find that not only are your eating what you want—when you want—but also that your diet will be balanced.

Best of luck, and if you are interested in speaking with me one on one, please contact me at 800.496.7710 or email charlotte@secretsofslimpeople.com. You may visit my website at www.secretsofslimpeople.com.

Charlotte Smith
Eating Consultant and Life Coach

Become The Real You will instruct you on how to listen to your own body. How to eat whatever you want to achieve and maintain your perfect body weight! No more diets, no drugs, no counting calories. It’s simple...and it works!

Become The Real You is a process is for anyone who:
--Is tired of yo-yo dieting
--Wants to return to their natural shape
--Wants to come to peace with food and their body
--Wants to lose weight permanently
--Wants freedom from food obsession

Contact Charlotte today to learn more at 800.496.7710.